James,
I am writing you this letter to express my extreme disapproval of your behavior at my dinner last night. What a disgrace to have my brother cause such a scene. I serve shrimp and champagne and caviar and invite very distinguished and influential guests to a formal dinner. And then you show up act so despicably. To have you act and speak in so rude and dogmatic a fashion to the condemnation and embarrassment of others, was enough, let alone have you speak such foolishness with so much overbearing pomposity. You sounded like one of those hypocritical, Bible-thumping, TV preachers.
It all started when you had to go and tell our brother’s boyfriend that you did not think that it was natural and instinctive for some people to be gay. You may defend yourself by saying that they asked you directly, but don’t try that with me. I was raised in the same house you were, and I know that our mother taught us that it is certainly not wrong to tell a white lie to save the dignity of another at a social occasion.
Then, when they were discussing the war in Iraq, you had to loudly support it by saying that the Bible, the Bible of all the distasteful references to bring up, gives the authority to punish evil with the sword, to the government. When you were asked why you don’t go fight, you acted like a dastardly coward and said that as a Christian you do not use physical force to change the world. What a miserable thing to say after all your big talk about the government punishing people with war. Of course, you had to go on to say that you are part of a “different Kingdom”. This sounds like something from a fairy tale or a kid’s imagination, part of a different Kingdom. The only kingdom you should be part of is one with locked doors, padded walls, and safe rooms. And talking about being part of another Kingdom with Professor Kingsley present, James, I shrink with shame at the thought.
Now that I have clearly explained my problem, I will tell you my solution. You have been forward, rude, and embarrassing. Because of this horrendous behavior, I refuse to invite you to anything again. If you wish to spend time with people, go spend it with members of your own kingdom. I know I invited you to Amy’s engagement party on Tuesday, but Tom’s parents are going to be there and I do not want them to think that their son is marrying into a family of lunatics. I also withdraw the invitation to her wedding.
Your mortified sister,
Elaina
My dear sister,
I am deeply sorry for any wrongdoing on my part and for the embarrassment that you felt. I beg your forgiveness for any undo forwardness or pomposity I may have held.
I will say that I am not sorry for answering honest, direct questions about my personal beliefs. I hold these beliefs to be true and have been commanded to speak them whenever I am asked and sometimes when I am not. At your parties I have spoken them only when asked out of consideration for you. But when I am directly asked, I refuse to lie.
I believe that you can rest your fears about your guests finding me to be foolish or offensive. I quietly stated my belief about gays and then said that I would only discuss it more in private. I also said that I disagree with the anti-gay, conservatives’ ways of addressing the issue. I had a deep, private conversation with Professor Kingsley after desert and not only did he think that I was not crazy, but he agreed to come to a Bible study with me in two weeks.
My dear, I ask that you not pin the fears of your pride on me. Do not throw me out because you hate what I believe and are embarrassed by it. I have done only what I know to be right and have sought to do it in only the most meek and humble of attitudes.
I will do all that I can in the future to avoid troubling you. I want to continue visiting you and spending time with your family. I would be deeply grieved to miss Amy’s wedding. I ask that you reconsider your withdrawal the invitation given to me. I love you and your family and seek for this to continue this.
Your loving brother,
James
Matthew 5:11 (KJV)
Blessed are ye, when men shall revile you, and persecute you, and shall say all manner of evil against you falsely, for my sake.
Matthew 5:11-12 (The Message) “Not only that—count yourselves blessed every time people put you down or throw you out or speak lies about you to discredit me. What it means is that the truth is too close for comfort and they are uncomfortable. You can be glad when that happens—give a cheer, even!—for though they don’t like it, I do! And all heaven applauds. And know that you are in good company. My prophets and witnesses have always gotten into this kind of trouble.